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May. 25th, 2006 01:43 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
angelakA real update.
Now that it’s Thursday, I’m done with Whiney Wednesday, and I have some things I feel I might benefit in updating --- well here goes.
There’s an infinite amount of things I’ve failed to even begin to scratch the surface of recording here. How pitiful.
Today: Note, I feel good. I just fleshed out a work plan – will get some things done, have plans on lunch to do a couple of things (one of them being, test drive a Subaru Impreza.)
For random - TOP 3 car picks for me, no order yet:
Mazda 6
Nissan Altima
Subaru Impreza
I’d also like to go back to Nissan – perhaps not Nissan of Belleview, to test drive another manual Altima with a different sales person. The first guy did not impress me, however smooth I was at getting away from him. I admit – again, WAY easier to go NEW car shopping, than used. The used sales experiences I’ve had in the past were nightmares.
Whatever the case. I am armed with a better attitude this time around.
Soooo. That being said; good work plan for day, test drive plans, and the fact that I get to film PPC on top of the COW meeting I covered on Tuesday – bodes well. This means the over-sized phone bill is eaten up by a few hours of extra work this week on the meetings. That makes Angela very-very happy!
Not only that, I’m just generally cheerful lately and for the past month. Except for the last couple of days; adjusting to birth control pills after not having been on them for about 5 months. YES. It does take a while to adjust. I thought I had gone unscathed by the adjusting to the whoremoans. Well – truth be told, I was fine until PMS week hit. Typically I am a little more emotional/moody – though to most people it isn’t noticeable. WELL. This month, it was MORE than noticeable to me.
Not so fun at all. Noticeable physically and emotionally. None the less, my body will readjust. After all, I had been on BC for 5 years before my 5 month break.
Sooooo let’s do a little updating.
Dating a new guy. That’s obvious from my posts. Let’s call him Jim. Actually, that’s his name. He lives just outside of Tacoma. Yes, I’m aware it’s a distance away. Although – to me, this isn’t a new thing. I mean, you’re talking to the girl who lived in Sultan for 4 years. Everything was an hour away from Sultan – and I’ll have ya’ll know, I went an hour to see a majority of people on this friends’ list, regularly, when I lived there.
That is about how long the Issaquah-to-Tacoma commute is. It really isn’t too much different than the Sultan-to-Eastside jaunt. This distance thing must be in the cards for me. Regardless, I’m a little more tolerant than your average person with the distance. This I have always known.
Sooooo into the fray here. The last couple of weekends I have been spending at Jim’s household. Initially I was apprehensive to bring up the dogs staying over there. I always am when regarding new relationships. I don’t want to impose my animals on anyone and yet for someone who lives a distance away from me, the options are pretty much as follows:
1- They (he) come to my dwelling.
2- My dogs go over there if I stay away longer than 6-7 hours.
Annnnd, I’m not the sort to want to go home after 6-7 hours. And there’s no way I’d go “check” on them with a 2 hr round trip dilemma.
I’ve dated a number of folks, yes. Not a huge number, but a number none the less. Most of the men I’ve dated had no prior experience with dogs in their lives directly. This is where I find Jim to be rather pleasant. He HAS. I do not have to train this one to live with my pack members. (We live in a pack [family], because they’re dogs and I’m the top dog, of course!!!)
The following really cool things so far:
1- Jim brought up me bringing the dogs over to his apartment, it wasn’t me. This off-handed “I wish they could come over here,” comment was the VERY thing I had been stressing a little about earlier that week. It could not have worked out better.
2- He automatically takes a leash for me, seeing as there are two dogs and one me. !!! It is simple things like these that really excite me. No joke. He didn’t even ask. He just did it. I didn’t even ask him to. Steve was trained to help me like this. Khaya didn’t do it until over a year had been invested in our relationship, and even then he was reluctant. (He wasn’t so much into the dogs much at all – it was a toleration.)
3- I think he might just adore the boys just as much as I do. (For instance, last night he was missing my dogs!) And me of course. Or said man makes comments like, “they’re so adorable," every so often. What a way to get to my heart. - Love my dogs like they are your own.-
These are just the dog related positives. This is a BIG deal to me. Things haven’t gone this easily with someone and my pack before. I do think he’s made one or two references to being one of the “boys.” Initiating himself into said pack? Hmmmmmmmmmm.... Regardless.
To me, my dogs are of high importance and I’ve never had it this easy with a man and my kids.
Sure – they (the dogs) piss us off at moments. But doesn’t everyone piss us off, no matter how much we love them? I am smitten on the fact that one of our early dates (and we’re still in the early dates stage still) was walking the dogs. He found that, “very fun,” and claimed it seemed like ones of those cool, “coupley,” things to do.
And in my head, I am thinking, “Why, sir – I do think I am really beginning to like you. A lot.”
Or more over, “Can I keep him!? Can I keep him!?”
I’m a silly girl analyzing and enjoying silly things about this guy. Fuck it. Why shouldn’t I? And why shouldn’t I be blessed enough to, at least for the moment, date someone who appreciates my loves as much as I do? Good gods.
SOMEONE PINCH me. Make sure I’m not dreaming.
And if I am, for FUCKS’sake do NOT wake me.
*happy sigh* So, I babble on because. NRE. Smitten. And I really dislike the early stages of grey area relationships. Maybe I am letting it perpetuate itself. We have yet to become official. I have been just letting it go as it will. And that’s fine. Though I think at some point I should express my need to understand exactly where he and I are at. I have no interest at this time in dating anyone else. I am a switch hitter with poly/mono relationships, and right now – monogamy is what I think I am feeling most comfortable with. These things ebb and flow, and this feels like it could be a VERY fulfilling monogamous relationship with the potential to suit my needs as they are.
Other random neat things:
I like his room mates.
All of his friends so far are pretty awesome.
Note: Angela hanging out with army guys = EVEN MORE EXCESSIVE PROFANITY. Be forewarned.
I already swear enough as it is. These guys? Perpetuate it! Jeeeeeessssuss.
Soooo. Let’s see. I saw “The Da Vinci Code,” with Jim last weekend. I did other stuff. I can’t remember anymore. So – Jim having room mates feels like a good balancing factor to the fact that I have no one at home and I hate living alone. It’s like, as I stated in Thankful Thursday, having “pseudo-roomies.”
Those guys crack me up endlessly. I love it when I can just hang out with people. I’m totally a people person and so the group household thing can be good for me. The other thing is that if they annoy me? I can leave.
;)
SO. Weekend before last. Lots of movies, cuddling, we went out to dinner. A few deeper conversation and a “togetherness,” trip because I was entirely out of BC (long story) and I needed to fill my prescription. I didn’t have time to do it anywhere else, so Jim got to come along. What a convenient way to discuss any number of topics that came up just from that outing alone.
So far, so good. We’ve also had some good religious discussions and I can tell this guy is GENUINELY open. In this aspect, although he is “Christian,” – well, I feel like we see eye to eye on a lot of things. No, he isn’t following my path.
And yet he understands, listens, and relates. And I feel it’s mutual.
This feels healthy.
He’s not a pagan. Do I care?
I’ve dated both now. Did I see much of a difference in our relationship? Honestly. No.
It will be interesting some Saturday if he EVER has it off, to see how he likes OLOTEAS, if he wants to come.
I respect if he doesn’t, although it seems like he might be interested. And OLOTEAS was one of the first things I went into heavily. He has gotten the OLO run down and seemingly understands how important it is to me. It's right up there with my dogs.
My chosen family, my community, my OLO. He gets it. And has not run screaming. Hells jeah!
It also sounds like he's had a Wiccan friend who he knew well in the Army. Good, good.
Anywho.
I feel very positive about this.
I like his positive outlook on life, attitude in day-to-day situations.
He is low on the drama scale.
He looks on the brighter side of things, and causes me to want to do the same. THIS is very fulfilling to me somehow. I think of all the things that drew me to him most initially, listening to his life outlook drew me the most. (Aside from how FUCKING adorable he is.)
He has such a good attitude and his energy is so light and positive, it makes me really WANT to be around him. I’m quite drawn to this. High on the sense of humor scale, I like that he has a smile on his face more than any other expression. How lovely is that??? How can anyone resist an adorable guy, who has lots of balls (anyone who has been to Iraq for a year and survived, still maintaining a positive outlook has got to have some balls)…
Sexual chemistry. Natural, good, healthy sexual chemistry. Yeay!
I like how it’s obvious we’re both attracted to each other. This is a really cool thing.
I like how I feel like we’re in the same place with a lot of thoughts, opinions, and ideas.
I’ll be vague because those would take too long to describe.
And yet I’m still in the “brand new” uncertain how to navigate the new customs for the Jim-country state of mind. Some things I feel comfortable with. Others I’m still learning. Naturally.
Anyways.
Soooo – I have a Jim-date tomorrow. I was hoping he’d come up to Seattle – though he’s visiting his parents in Portland today and driving back tomorrow. He feels less inclined to continue the drive up to Seattle. I can understand and I figured this was going to be the case. We have plans to go to some bar that his friends like to frequent.
“This bar might be different than you’re used to. 95% of the clientele are military people.”
Ooookay. I’ve been forewarned about military drama and creepy eye-ballers.
I’m okay with that. Frankly, you can look alllll you want. And because I’m a bit of an attention whore, I can even get behind enjoying the attention from random creeps.
Heh.
HOWEVER – I’m quite satisfied with my current selection :)
(Like that one day I was trying to find Jim’s apartment for the first time and Mr. Army Jogger in the parking lot introduced himself and was trying to “help,” me. This is all while I was on the phone with Jim.) Heh. Funny shit.
Did I jump timelines? When did this reality create itself? I am getting a whole new view on military. That’s all I can say.
And I am okay with that. After all, I’m doing my part to support the troops, right? *cough cough*
Now. Hopefully they do not call up his unit in the reserves before his term is out. And I am unsure when his term is out. Hmmmm.
And yet. If they do. (insert hopeful energy here) - I'm the kind of sap who wouldn't give up. Because ya'll know my stubborn Virgo-ass. When I get something in my mind, I rarely give up.
*siiiighssss* A pirates life for me.
Regardless. This is Angela in a very, very happy place.
Any questions? :P
-Angela
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Date: 2006-05-25 09:01 pm (UTC)Such a great word.
*hugs* glad you're doing well! We should grab our boys and do a double-date sometime.
Totally
Date: 2006-05-25 09:01 pm (UTC):P
I'd love that, though.
-Angela
Re: Totally
Date: 2006-05-25 09:17 pm (UTC)Re: Totally
Date: 2006-05-25 11:37 pm (UTC)Do you guys travel?
All my other friends apparently don't.
He gets off school weekday evenings 9:30PM typically. Thursdays might be workable earlier.
Weekends, he typically works either 12-6ish or 5-9ish.
Depending on the day.
It *does* get easier if more folks are flexible about traveling. Including HIM!
-Angela
Re: Totally
Date: 2006-05-26 01:30 am (UTC)Re: Totally
Date: 2006-05-26 01:47 am (UTC)(my mundane friends.)
:P
-Angela
Re: Totally
Date: 2006-05-26 04:35 am (UTC)This from the guy that used to drive 8 hours for a booty call :-)
Re: Totally
Date: 2006-05-26 04:27 pm (UTC):X
I do that kind of shit.
Well, damnit M.
Keep "rubbing off" on her.
I'm sure you'll find many ways to carry that task out.
hahahahaahha.
Love you both -
-Angela
Re: Totally
Date: 2006-05-26 04:29 pm (UTC)Re: Totally
Date: 2006-05-26 04:54 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-05-25 09:05 pm (UTC)LY,
D
:)
Date: 2006-05-26 01:22 am (UTC)See you this weekend.
-Angela
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Date: 2006-05-25 09:16 pm (UTC)EH
Date: 2006-05-26 01:21 am (UTC)Great hiking trails nearby - just ... well. I donno. A dumb little town.
-Angela
Re: EH
Date: 2006-05-26 03:09 am (UTC)Good things for Angela
Date: 2006-05-25 10:23 pm (UTC)Glad to hear that you've found someone really compatible, with whom your likes and needs (including the other members of your pack) are shared or at least warmly received instead of tolerated. You deserve it.
Re: Good things for Angela
Date: 2006-05-26 01:20 am (UTC)It's just kinda how I am.
Ever since I learned to drive, I was driving long distances (an hour plus) to get anywhere and see varying people who were important to me.
This means? I'm desensitized ;)
And thanks for the kind words and stuffs.
And the next time you're in town and it isn't a HUGELY busy weekend, we should get ice cream. That'd be fun.
-Angela
Re: Good things for Angela
Date: 2006-05-26 04:13 am (UTC)Re: Good things for Angela
Date: 2006-05-26 04:28 pm (UTC)Sure, you can!
Good to see you back in the land of the living online.
-Angela
Far away escape!
Date: 2006-05-27 02:51 pm (UTC)I think there's something nice about him living in Tacoma. This way you get to meet completely new people and go to new places and it's like an escape from the one block that is your work and home. I think that's a really nice thing to have! But hey, that's just me. ;)
I'm so glad about the dogs and their realtionship! I miss Ru!!!
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Date: 2006-05-31 09:06 pm (UTC)Creepy creepy. I think I know just what you mean there. The start of my current relationship was similar, not QUITE knowing where we were at. As time went by, though, it became more and more obvious. I can see the same thing happening with you. It just sounds like things will click sooner or later.
Oh yeah... YAY FOR ANGELA!!! :D
I SO need to meet this guy...