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[angelak]

It has been a good day predominantly, except... until a co worker came up to me and said "I needed to stop losing weight. I'd done great but I really needed to stop losing weight."

I found it pretty offensive. Now, with the current state of affairs, I've been off kilter a bit anyway. I tried to evade and say I've been maintaining, because I have - but it doesn't stop the fact that it makes me uncomfortable for people to do and say things about my weight in the work place at all.

It's not like anyone would dream of a girl gaining weight and say to her, "you really need to stop gaining weight. You do. Stop."

I mean, it's the same thing isn't it?
So, then came later, the emotional roller coaster that is this week.
I just felt angry and then I wanted to cry. This is so not me.
Cry over some woman telling me I needed to stop losing weight? Furthermore, this week I gained 5-8lbs according to my water-weight scale.
WTF. Leave me alone, stop bothering me about MY body. MY body. I'm healthy, happy, and lean. And yes, some of the clothes I have bought now shows off a new body that I spent a long time hiding under old clothes with.

I am still angry - off kilter. My boss blabbing about the new people coming on. They're all above me. They hire above and I don't advance. It's upsetting. 6 years of service here and I am still the kid. I know that.

I hate it. I want to cry even more. I want to scream. I want to shout and hit people, but instead I will sit here and install 8 versions of AutoCAD on this engineer's computer. Because they obviously NEED 8 versions.

And the person I hate most is in the office today. Joy.
Wandering around taking care of the re-orged part of my job that I used to love most.

This has GOT to be hormonal. I mean, some of these issues are real, but usually I just let it go.

-Angela

Comments

[bluedrgn52.livejournal.com]

WTF? WHY would someone tell you that? It's not like you're not eating and your ribs are sticking out or anything. Why can't people just leave other people alone???? Geesh. *smacks the lady*

aw thanks!

[ithisia.livejournal.com]

That is what I was thinking...
I eat, I eat quite a lot.
Your comment did brighten my day though!

-Angela

Re: aw thanks!

[bluedrgn52.livejournal.com]

I'm glad! Sometimes we just need someone to mentally slap people for us...it can make all the difference.

[nobodyberry.livejournal.com]

She's just jealous, like the rest of us. ;) I think you look fantastic.

;)

[ithisia.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Lady. I can't wait for this winter weather crap to die down.

Random.

-Angela

Actually, they would.

[tzaddi-93.livejournal.com]

It's not like anyone would dream of a girl gaining weight and say to her, "you really need to stop gaining weight. You do. Stop."

It doesn't make what was said to you any less inappropriate or offensive, but you should be aware that your assumption is dead wrong. That and worse happens to people who are overweight all the time. There's really not anything that someone wouldn't dream of saying to a person who is overweight. Ask any woman you know who wears clothing size 12 or larger.

Re: Actually, they would.

[ithisia.livejournal.com]

Okay, well with my upbringing it would never occur to me... and I have worn a size 12 or larger in my life... erp. I guess no one called me fat then...

:P

-Angela

Re: Actually, they would.

[ithisia.livejournal.com]

Or more or less.
No one should bring up weight in the workplace setting if you ask me...
Skinny, fat - in the middle.

No?

-Angela

Re: Actually, they would.

[ithisia.livejournal.com]

Got me asking my mom about it - who has never been under a size 12 (yet).
She said she's never had that problem in adult-land, but in HS, she did.

*shrugs* Guess it depends on who you are, what people you run into etc etc.
Again. I stick by the fact that ladies' and their bodies should not be some sort of discussion randomly passed around the office unless they want it that way - no?
I mean sure I'm polite around the office, but that doesn't make me their best friend - and that's really the only people I'd discuss these things with. I know everyone has their own culture and blahbalbah, but jeez.

I donno.

-Angela

Re: Actually, they would.

[tzaddi-93.livejournal.com]

I agree that it's not anybody's business, especially in the work place.

Re: Actually, they would.

[tzaddi-93.livejournal.com]

This one is on the more extreme end (and was met with a brilliant comeback,) but like I said, people say some fucked up shit to overweight people.

http://diannesylvan.typepad.com/dancing_down_the_moon/2008/02/for-racu-an-ane.html

[violindaine.livejournal.com]

I just saw you a week and a half ago. You don't need to stop losing weight, you just changed your shape, and your body composition. In my opinion you look amazing and you inspire me to take better care of myself on a fitness level. If your coworker is too oblivious to actually notice HOW you're changing she shouldn't open her mouth.

!!!

[ithisia.livejournal.com]

And it was really good to spend time with you, I might add. Thanks, dear - your words are so sweet!!!

*hugs*

-Angela

[everlastinggoo.livejournal.com]

People do that "you need to stop losing weight" shit to me all the time now. Pisses me right the hell off...


Oh, I added you back, btw! :-P